My practice emphasizes non-litigation approaches to conflict resolution. I help my clients find ways to resolve their issues without fighting. Some attorneys are gladiators, some attorneys are problem solvers. I see myself as a problem solver. This means spending time listening to you to find out what your goals, fears, and hopes are, and then working with you to try and find out how we can best achieve your objectives.

There are many ways to resolve disputes other than through litigation. These include:
Collaborative Law: a team approach to resolving difficult cases based on interests rather than power
Mediation: where both of you work with a neutral mediator, with or without attorneys present
Talking things out directly: I think of this as the kitchen table approach

Most of my work is in Collaborative Law. While most resolution methods will yield a satisfactory solution, I believe the Collaborative approach helps you discover the BEST solutions. The Collaborative team will work to help both of you plan the financial future that best meets your needs and goals, and to help you develop a plan to effectively co-parent your children.

Interestingly, the Collaborative approach is not just for amicable couples. It is actually a highly effective method for managing conflict. However, a Collaborative approach is not right for every client. You need to be genuinely interested in finding solutions that work for your spouse as well as for you, and you must be committed to working through the process with your spouse. This work can be difficult, but your professional team will be there to support you through every step.

One benefit of resolving things outside of court is preservation of existing relationships. A therapist I know put it very well when she said that in a divorce, we end the relationship of husband and wife, but the relationships of father, mother, and children continue. It is those relationships of father, mother, and children that need to be protected to the extent possible even when the family is no longer going to be living together. Even where there are no children involved, many people want to end their marriage in a reasonable and adult way that will allow them to look back on their divorce as a time of positive growth rather than the most horrible experience in their lives.

You can contact Mike directly at mike@seattledivorceservices.com, or visit his blog at www.defusingdivorce.com.